Last month we talked about seasons of grief. With loss comes grief. Your clients come to you in their season of grief. Big or small. Anticipated or sudden. Life changing or a swerve in their story.

They come… riding on a tsunami of emotions. Fear, despair, anger, guilt, anxiety, sadness, shame, depression, self-blame, denial, and longing. Unbidden, the emotions cascade over them, pushing them to shore (your office).

Their grief process begins. As you encourage them to fully feel their emotion, you help them move into and through the process to healing. What a gift, to give a safe space while the tsunami of grief dashes them to depths of despair.

Have you noticed though that you’re often met with resistance? We resist pain. It seems easier to push emotions down. Stay busy. Get immersed in work. Intellectualize the grief.

Your clients tell themselves, “I’m afraid I’ll get stuck in these emotions. What will others think of me? Maybe something’s wrong with me. If I start crying, I’ll never stop. I’m NOT okay, I just want to get back to normal.”

You know this won’t work. The grief can’t be ignored. It will come out in other ways – disease, aches and pains, relationship issues, or mental distress.

Grief is a process. Our clients must go through the process. They must be allowed to fully feel their emotions in the present moment. Let them tell whatever story they choose that helps them make sense of their grief.

And what about you? How do you navigate their tsunami of emotion?

If you come away from sessions feeling drained, edgy, out-of-sorts, you might be acting like a sponge. Soaking up your clients’ energy.

Remember, emotions are energy in motion. And the stronger emotion “wins” the atmosphere.

So, it’s time to check in with yourself.

  1. Sit in a relaxed, supported position. Take a deep breath in through your nose. Release it forcefully through your mouth. Repeat 2 more times.
  2. Notice where the tension, pain, ache, or sensation is in your body.
  3. Float you hand(s) to connect with the place you’ve recognized.
  4. Relate to what is under you hand.
  5. Listen to what your body is saying.
  6. What images come to mind?
  7. Ask that place, “What emotion is here”?
  8. Identify it and name it.
  9. Speak to the emotion. For example, you could say, “Fear, thank you for your message. I now release you.”

You know how important it is to engage and stay present in the moment with your grieving
client. But it’s easy to absorb their energy and lose yourself. Using professional recovery tools
after sessions prevent you from burnout. Or worse.

Love all around, above, below, to the left and to the right, before you and behind you,

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