During my long grief journey, I’ve learned two things. 1) Healing is a three-phased process going through, Raw Grief, Fragile Grief, and Gentle Grief. 2) The body tells the truth. It reveals where trauma lodges in your body. Then you can recognize it, relate to it, and release it.

It’s taken years to learn the techniques for listening to my body. The strategy of breathing to stay grounded in my body and the present moment.

You see, we are spiritual beings having a human experience. Interconnected parts make up our whole person: body, mind, emotions, and spirit. That’s why learning to listen to your body can bring healing to your mind and emotions.

Join me for the next three weeks as we continue exploring these elements. We’ll also discuss how grief impacts each area.

Week #1 – Mind

Week #2 – Body

Week #3 – Emotions

Week #4 – Spirit

Today, we’ll talk about The Mind as it encounters grief

When suddenly confronted with deep loss, you’re thrust into a state of Raw Grief. Your world gets turned upside down. You feel adrift.

This happened to me when my son Reed died by suicide. I felt disconnected. Unattached to my body. I struggled to right my world by staying busy, taking care of everyone else around me. Handling all the details.

And then I discovered my “mean mind”. The critical, perfectionistic mind relentlessly setting the bar too high. Nothing is ever good enough. The ‘list’ is never done. The real world falls short of what I imagined.

Thoughts of “if only” and “why” tortured me, looping around and around in my mind.

Unfortunately, Reed too had been super critical of himself. In the end, he was much harder on himself than anyone else. He couldn’t deal with the “failure” of getting suspended from the school basketball team for breaking the alcohol rules.

Reed couldn’t see that failure can be a gateway for growth. Instead of asking for help, he took himself out of the game of life – permanently.

I became aware that “being too hard on yourself can kill ya’”. Gradually I realized that the only way through grief was to go in. Into grief – to uncover my false beliefs.

Don’t Get Stuck

This is where many people are at risk of getting stuck in their trauma or grief. Looping images. Unending questions. Why? If only… I should have…

Escaping the tyranny of your “mean-mind” comes when you let go and stop trying to figure things out. And instead, become willing, open, and curious. Then allow, accept, and receive the gift of the body-mind connection.

So, stay tuned. Next week we’ll explore more about this body-mind relationship. Find out how to quiet your frontal lobe and activate your limbic brain. Begin operating with more awareness and intuition.

Can you really trust there’s an inner guidance system? Find out more here

Love all around, above, below, to the left and to the right, before you and behind you,


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