Creating Your Altar Honoring Your Departed

Creating Your Altar Honoring Your Departed

Part 2 of 4 Halloween, All Hallow’s Eve is tonight. Children dress up going from house to house to receive sweet treats. Could it be that for this one night in the United States, we embrace death instead of fearing it? Tomorrow on November 1st, All Saint’s...
How to Get Relief in the Spiral of Mourning

How to Get Relief in the Spiral of Mourning

Everyone knows that grief comes unbidden. The common belief is that thoughts always precede feelings, however, when you are grieving, you may not even be thinking about your child, and suddenly there will be a sight, a sound or a smell that will instantly trigger your...
What about My Other Children When I Am Grieving for My Lost Child?

What about My Other Children When I Am Grieving for My Lost Child?

It is very, very important for parents to say to each of their surviving children, “You are not (the name of the child who died), you are (the name of the child you are speaking to).” In our wisdom as parents, we said to our son Vincent, “You are not Reed, you are...
Does Grief’s Grip Have to Last Forever?

Does Grief’s Grip Have to Last Forever?

When you are overcome by grief, it feels like you are adrift on an iceberg that is breaking up in a dance fog. This can lead to feelings of fatigue, devastation, confusion, chaos, despair, shame, anger, guilt, fear of eternal separation and hopelessness. It feels like...
Be Free of Overwhelming Pain: Listen to your Body

Be Free of Overwhelming Pain: Listen to your Body

Gather some paper, crayons, markers and a pencil. Find a comfortable chair to sit in so your feet are firmly planted on the floor. Ground yourself by noticing how your feet are contacting the floor. Is there one foot that is pressing down onto the floor harder than...