Grief comes in waves, like the ocean. We can feel like we are drowning when we fight against our feelings. Even the sensation of simply feeling our emotions in our body, as they move through, can feel like being covered up—unable to breathe. It happened again this...
When grief is in your body, you feel that bone-tired, dragging one foot in front of the other, fatigue. It can also feel like the grief is sucking the energy from your mind, emotions and heart. You have a sense of disorientation, and most likely, you have no map...
It is very, very important for parents to say to each of their surviving children, “You are not (the name of the child who died), you are (the name of the child you are speaking to).” In our wisdom as parents, we said to our son Vincent, “You are not Reed, you are...
The three unmet emotional needs that you will experience as a grieving parent are powerlessness, yearning and longing for your child and the fear that people will forget your child. By naming these, you can then begin to claim the opposite of each one of them. So with...
