I thought of you when reading these two quotes about blame and guilt:
Any sense of guilt we have, any burdens of condemnation we entertain, or any mental state that weighs us down hinders us from fully experiencing the nature of spiritual reality.
~Thoman S. Monson
Blame keeps wounds open. Only Forgiveness heals.~Earnest Holmes
How often do you blame yourself and/or others for a disaster in your life?
How often do you feel guilty about something you did or didn’t do?
Blaming is what we do when something hasn’t turned out the way we want. Should we blame ourselves when someone close to us makes a mistake?
Of course not, blame is useless. It doesn’t change what is.
When things don’t go well: stop, deep dive into what happened. Act like a scientist by asking questions.
- How did this happen?
- What can I learn so it doesn’t happen again?
- What was my part in this or was it beyond my control?
When we’ve thoroughly explored these questions, even 100 times over, we can focus on prevention.
That’s how Mothers Against Drunk Driving (M.A.D.D.) began. As did The American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP). Two organizations started out of tragedy.
So, the next time you’re tempted to use your precious life force energy to blame someone, something, or yourself, stop and ask:
Is this the best use of my time and energy in this moment?
If it feels like it is, then do it.
But if there’s even a bit of doubt, move into the Forgiveness Mantra:
A colleague of mine recently stated, “Guilt is feeling powerless to change the past.”
How often do we look in the rearview mirror wishing we’d said, done, or been something different?
Once again, when we know better, we do better. None of us is living life without mistakes. Missing the mark.
Instead of allowing ‘guilt and burdens of condemnation to weigh us down’ as Dr. Holmes states, I invite you to turn within to that place of stillness.
You may have to stop what you’re doing when guilty thoughts arise.
And, you may have to breathe slowly and mindfully turning your attention within. Or, you may have to “Feel your Feet” . Become aware of your body so you can allow and access its guidance. This place has always been there.
As the world around you breaks down, what is wanting to breakthrough?
I believe it is the Oneness Within. Our Integrated Wellbeing. The well of wisdom within. The still small voice that prophets and sages of old revealed.
What would your life be like without blame and guilt?
Hit reply. Share your thoughts with me.
Love all around, above, below, to the left and to the right, before you and behind you,
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