Parents are supposed to die first, not their children.  That’s just the natural order of life.

But children leave this life every moment of every day.

No matter the child’s age or cause of death – illness, miscarriage, suicide or abortion, it’s devastating to those left behind, particularly for moms.

The emotions felt by parents, friends and family are deep and wide:  they don’t just go away with time, nor do those touched by a child’s death “get over it”.  You may change how you carry the memories, grief, and hurt, but you never forget a death.

How do you carry on after a child dies?  Is healing possible?

I believe it is.

Many people misconstrue “healing” as getting rid of instead of a process of transformation.  Healing your grief does not mean forgetting the departed or acting as if their death did not occur.  It means changing how we carry the grief within our hearts, our bodies, so one can hold the beloved in love instead of sadness.

Music, stories, and heart-centered sharing are powerful ways to connect with the deep emotions of grief.

Come sit in ceremony with us on Saturday May 13th, the eve of Mother’s Day.  Bring your pain, sadness, wonderment and willingness to shift into a new mourning.

Learn more and register here.

Let the healing begin.

Heather Michet is a Ceremonial Songstress who weaves lyrical, a cappela vocals throughout a wide array of ceremonies in a myriad of settings.  From weddings in the woods, graveside memorials, and ashes scatterings at the shore, to house blessings, birthday parties, and natural births in bedrooms, her Celtic style voice embraces the heart and stirs the spirit of all who gather to celebrate meaningful life events.

A colleague recently wrote ”The guest blogging is interesting, but I want to hear from you, Georgena.”

So did Portland AMNW show host, Helen Rapptis. A friend of hers is a teacher in a Camas, WA middle school. Recent suicides in their district prompted Helen to do this interview with me:

More on the research about the suicide gene in the May 17th newsletter.