Fear triggers anxiety and anger. Especially fear of change. Our predictable response is to exert control. Instead, transform these emotions and release them.
First, sightings and messages after last week’s blog: gone to the birds
I received so many messages from you after last week’s blog! Thank you for sharing your experiences with bird sightings (and other messages from nature).
Here’s a smattering of what you all shared:
- A hummingbird regularly visits at dusk
- One’s favorite Aunt recognized as a hummingbird
- Mom appearing as a cardinal (Spiritual meaning = love)
- Son circling and blessing events as an eagle against the blue sky
- Dragonflies so prevalent that one of you had to look up their spiritual meaning. (Spiritual meaning = change, transformation, adaptability, self-realization)
And David wrote this poem after a dove sighting. His wife would have celebrated her 52nd birthday this week.
So again, thanks for letting me share in your joy, wonder, and fun. You are my teachers, guides, and inspiration!!
A message from crows – emotional transformation
I also had an amazing experience with a “birds” visitation last Wednesday morning. Three crows came and perched on my balcony railing – Caw! Caw! Caw-caw! Loud. Raucous. Insistent on connecting with me. Never in the five years of living here has this happened.
I looked up the spiritual meaning of crows and this is what I discovered:
The Crow represents change or transformation. But much more than that, it refers more to a spiritual or emotional change.
Wow! What a timely message. Because that’s exactly what I needed for later that day.
Once a week I work with the employees of a local company in providing therapy. Over and over people showed up feeling anxiety, grief, and anger.
Every one of those emotions is triggered by fear. Mostly fear of change. A relationship breakup, communication misunderstandings, health challenges, and addiction. Each person felt disconnected, unsafe, overwhelmed.
Delving into the situations we discovered that they coped with an upset by exerting control. Hanging on to their idea of what the other person should be saying and doing.
Our predictable responses are actually defenses helping us feel safe. But these behaviors separate us from others. They build walls around our hearts. And they cut us off from our internal emotional guidance system.
An exercise to transform emotions
So, I asked each person to engage in the following experiment:
- Clench your fists as tight as possible.
- Recall the person, event, emotion that you are attempting to control.
- Move your fists away from your body to engage with this image.
- What happens?
Then we moved through the forgiveness mantra. Forgiveness for their defensive thinking. Forgiveness helps release and transform emotions.
Most of them opened their eyes and laughed. They discovered that it was ludicrous to hang on to their idea of what should happen, how, and when.
After that, we tapped into a deeper connection within by breathing in the Love of a Greater Power (the Universe, The Love of God, The Love of Jesus, Buddha).
And breathing this Love out into their life knowing it was rippling out to the upsetting event or person.
Now it’s your turn.
Try this process the next time you recognize emotions triggered by fear. Let me know what your experience. Did you feel a transformation and release of negative emotions?
Love all around, above, below, to the left and to the right, before you and behind you,