Gratitude in the Darkness of Grief

Gratitude in the Darkness of Grief

You can find hope in the darkness of grief by embracing the Practices of Gratitude. If you feel trapped in a dark pit of grief right now, you might want to scream at me for even suggesting you be grateful. Let alone establish a practice of gratitude. Don’t you know I...
Grieving Is Natural: Find Your Way

Grieving Is Natural: Find Your Way

​​Is Love Possible After Your Lover Dies?  Cary Valentine was interviewed during Michelle Marchant Johnson’s Fuel Your Feminine Fire summit. I immediately recognized that, unlike other men I have dated, he had done his grief work. After the death of his wife, Wendy,...
From Showers to Flowers

From Showers to Flowers

National weather reports torrential rains in many parts of the country. We’ve seen the devastation of tornadoes in the south. Severe weather events bring loss. As we know, Grief IS a natural consequence of loss.  How are you in this moment with these traumatic words...
How to Comfort the Comforter

How to Comfort the Comforter

We talk a lot about how to support someone who’s grieving. But what about the close friend – the grief-adjacent person? The support person in the “inner circle”? Today we talk about how to comfort the comforter. People rarely realize the enormous energy spent in...

Grief is NOT Contagious

When people we love experience grief due to loss, we often put up an emotional wall. We don’t want to “catch” their heavy emotions. But grief is not a disease to cure or a problem to fix. It certainly is not contagious. Grief is not contagious. It’s a time to connect....

Coping with grief after the loss of a child

A child’s death is a parent’s worse nightmare. The pain never really goes away. Coping with grief is a within-to-without process. Support gets you through the dark times. Moving within Can you feel it in the air? Leaves letting go. Darkness returning....