How to Comfort the Comforter

How to Comfort the Comforter

We talk a lot about how to support someone who’s grieving. But what about the close friend – the grief-adjacent person? The support person in the “inner circle”? Today we talk about how to comfort the comforter. People rarely realize the enormous energy spent in...

Grief is NOT Contagious

When people we love experience grief due to loss, we often put up an emotional wall. We don’t want to “catch” their heavy emotions. But grief is not a disease to cure or a problem to fix. It certainly is not contagious. Grief is not contagious. It’s a time to connect....

Coping with grief after the loss of a child

A child’s death is a parent’s worse nightmare. The pain never really goes away. Coping with grief is a within-to-without process. Support gets you through the dark times. Moving within Can you feel it in the air? Leaves letting go. Darkness returning....

Will You Light Your Candle On Tuesday Night?

Tuesday, September 10th is Worldwide Suicide Prevention Day. People around the world will light a candle and place it in the window. They’re shining light on the darkness of suicide. How can you help prevent yet another beloved from dying by suicide? First, know...

How Do You Move Forward after Trauma?

My Dear Community, Recently, I spoke with a grieving woman who lost her child by suicide 19 months ago. She asked me, “How did you move forward after your son’s traumatic death? Talk therapy just does not work.” I paused, took a deep breath and began… Four years...
It’s the Moments – Not Words

It’s the Moments – Not Words

When caught in the throes of grief it’s the moments, not the words, that reach into our heart. Let your presence speak volumes. “…the giving of space for someone to discover for themselves what it means to grieve…” Mark Nepo. My Dear Community, When I remember...