How to Write a Holiday Card to a Grieving Friend

How to Write a Holiday Card to a Grieving Friend

It’s that time of year again when we send holiday cards to friends and family. And you’re stressing about what to say in your card when someone’s grieving. You wonder if you should send your yearly “family newsletter” – the one intended to catch everyone up on what’s...

What to Say to a Grieving Person

The topic of how to greet a grieving person came up again this week. My client said, “I wish people would stop asking, ‘How are you?’” I wish they would too. The role of the grief-adjacent You, as someone in the role of the grief-adjacent, are called to activate...
It’s the Moments – Not Words

It’s the Moments – Not Words

When caught in the throes of grief it’s the moments, not the words, that reach into our heart. Let your presence speak volumes. “…the giving of space for someone to discover for themselves what it means to grieve…” Mark Nepo. My Dear Community, When I remember...

And the Award goes to… (part 2)

My Dear Community, Last week’s blog post titled, And the Award goes to…, touched deep nerves. Many wrote in and shared the hurtful words people said after the death of a loved one. I’m saddened by the insensitive and rude things people say. But also, warmly affected...

Could Wearing A Red Question Mark Start a Grief Awareness Movement?

Dear Community, Lately, I’ve been wondering, how can we raise grief awareness? Specifically, how can we educate friends, family, co-workers, and neighbors about better ways of greeting a grieving person? You’ve seen the colored ribbons promoting awareness and...

Say Something, Please!

Say Something, Please! My Dear Community, Have you experienced this…… A holiday greeting comes in the mail and there is not ONE WORD about your beloved who’s passed! Friends and family mean well. We know they intend to send special thoughts and love. While you’re...