Where are you on The Missing Them Scale?

Where are you on The Missing Them Scale?

When beginning a grief session with someone, I usually ask, “How are you in this moment?” And then I follow up with, “On a scale of 1-10, how’s your grief?” or “On a scale of 1-10 how much are you missing them?”   Why? Because these questions...
Are you afraid of being happy?

Are you afraid of being happy?

My Dear Community, Many questions arise for those grappling with grief’s grip. Questions like: Will I always be in pain? When will the sadness leave? If I am happy, will I forget him/her/them Grief lives in the body. And the body tells the truth. Navigating the world...
Are you afraid of forgetting them?

Are you afraid of forgetting them?

  Are you afraid that you may forget your most treasured memories of those you’ve lost? Several people said to me this week, “I’m afraid of forgetting him.” Or, “Time is passing since her death and my memories of her are passing too.” Perhaps thoughts of...
The Mind – as it encounters grief

The Mind – as it encounters grief

During my long grief journey, I’ve learned two things. 1) Healing is a three-phased process going through, Raw Grief, Fragile Grief, and Gentle Grief. 2) The body tells the truth. It reveals where trauma lodges in your body. Then you can recognize it, relate to it,...
How to Immediately Lower Your Mental Stress

How to Immediately Lower Your Mental Stress

Grief and stress affect our brain and body in similar fashion. But there’s a way to immediately reset – even before getting out of bed in the morning.   As you know, grief is a multi-faceted process. It can affect your body as fatigue, nausea, insomnia,...

Wanted: Your Best Ideas for The Grief Jar

Good things happen in therapy sessions because clients have a safe place to embrace their emotions. A place where they don’t worry if someone else feels uncomfortable. A non-judgmental place. Where snotty faces, red eyes, or outraged railings at God are accepted. My...